Wondering what this is about?
It is about what we see around us everywhere- on the streets, at work, in relationships, in politics, in governance…everywhere!
People seem to be on this trip of constantly proving something to others around – in thought, tweet, speech or deed.
So if, on the road, this 2-wheeler guy wants to take a right turn- he will. Doesn’t matter that there is a divider and no right turn. He just goes over the divider!
To hell with the on coming traffic that needs to put sudden brakes to accommodate him and save his life!!!
On social media, especially Twitter, a few people are constantly trying to prove how only their thoughts are right and others are wrong. This hounding or trolling is not just one political party hitting at another; it has now gone down to individual agendas being driven about any subject that could be used to hit at someone; and every one’s in one or the other “camp”. The name of the game seems to be “let’s hit them”!
Of course, mercifully, while these few people are on the high decibel, 4 tweets per minute kind of a campaign, a large part of the population is not even there on twitter.
At workplaces, it hardly takes long for organisations to be divided into three groups – those who are close to the bosses, those who are close to the ones against the bosses and the third, vast majority, who watch dumbfounded the games that go on.
Needless to even talk about politics and governance.
What about relationships? Well, now even a fun song is that which encourages break ups and casual flings – “Break up Song”!!! So guess what’s happening in relationships.
What is happening around us?
Why is it so important for more and more people to have “my way or highway”?
I see a rapid devaluation of anything that promotes a sense of sanity, cohesion and discipline to enable society to function.The values displayed seem to promote more and more of negativity.
We are all Point collectors
It probably starts in childhood, when at home the kid is pushed to win in everything – exams, games, extra curricular activities and even looks!
If the kid succeeds, he/she learns that beating others wins him/her praise and rewards. And with each win he/she collects “Ego Points” which are stored in the heart.
The Ego Points may work to reinforce that he is smarter than others. It can build a disdain for others who don’t make it and a gradual disdain for the system itself that made him win.
If the child fails, he learns that he is a loser and collects “Sore Points”. The Sore Points build a longing to beat the system that doesn’t let him win. Their power will be used every time to break the system.
In between are all the other kids, with varying degrees of success or failure; and their own parcel of Points.
But a common thing getting more and more ingrained in all is insensitivity.
Results are the focus; not behaviour. Sane parenting, may be doing what it can, whenever time available; but are the pressures to succeed more powerful?
The silent majority is at risk
The law of nature says only a small percentage wins and a large percentage doesn’t, starting with the race to fertilise eggs. So do all our competitions- in education or other areas. The normal curve represents this, with a vast population stuck in the middle of the two extremes of outright winners and total losers.
The refusal to follow the simple traffic rule or respect the needs of others on the road could be the result of either of the two -Ego Points or Sore Points, driving the individual.
Those in the middle, who watch such actions and/or are the victims of these, either follow or pick up their own quota of Sore Points watching rampant violations.
So is it a surprise that more and more people every day are feeling sore about everything; And may be joining the bandwagons of the game players?
Do we need a change?
The winners are the ones who have the power to do things, to bring change in whatever part of society they won control – in government, in organisations, at homes or in society.
But the insensitivity and the Ego Points that made them winners, do not give them the awareness to think of what larger good they can do and how they can help losers and by-standers avoid collecting Sore Points and radiating negative energy.
Do we care?
I do……I hope you do too.
And what can we do to stop this?
I believe the three places that can work to bring a mass turnaround in Value Systems are – Homes, Educational Institutions and Workplaces. These are places where individuals spend the maximum part of a day.These are also places where there is a large set of people to interact with and align with for common value systems.
These are the places which have the power to bring social behavioural change by embedding strong values within their core systems and processes.
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